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Trying out for a team can be a stressful and emotional time for a teen, especially if they don’t make the team. Mental Coach Steve Genetski answers questions and gives advice on his take on trying and trying again.
Q: My child is trying out for a team. How can I as a parent help him mentally prepare for the tryout?
A: Tryouts are more about coaches evaluating physical attributes and key skills of the individuals trying out. The better your child is prepared in those areas the more likely he or she is to have a successful tryout. As far as mental preparation is concerned, my advice would be the same for a tryout as it is for playing in the Super Bowl. First and foremost, stay loose and relaxed. Nobody is at their best when they are nervous and worried about outcome. Next, stay alert and focused on the task at hand. Paying close attention to what you are doing is always beneficial. Last, but not least, believe in yourself. It’s difficult for others to believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself.
Q: My child didn’t make the team. How can I help them cope with the disappointment? What are some ways I can better cope with my own disappointment?
A: The only way to fail is to fail to try. Your child should be commended for his or her courage and effort in trying out. Many of the greatest athletes who ever lived were unsuccessful at tryouts. Believe it or not, Michael Jordan, one of the greatest basketball players of all time, failed to make his high school basketball team. In his case, the disappointment of not making the team motivated him to outwork everyone else and eventually become better than everyone else who ever played the game. Young athletes need to understand that if they are truly passionate about their sport they can always achieve a degree of success if they are willing to put in the time and effort.
Your job as a parent is to love, support and encourage your children. Be proud of the courage your child exhibited to try out in the first place. You need to remind yourself that making or not making the team is not about you. If you show disappointment, your child is sure to feel like they let you down. Any time your children try out for a team and are not chosen provides you a great opportunity to show unconditional support to your child. Not every child is a gifted athlete, and that’s ok. There are many joyful paths in life for your children to pursue. Help them find the one to which they are best suited.
Steve’s proven performance training methods get results. He has trained more than 200 student athletes and many were All-State, State Champions or State Record-Holders.
• 20 High-School or College All-Americans
• 25 became Professional Athletes
• $30 million in scholarship offers
Learn more at www.stevesportsstars.com and contact Steve at 205-979-5351205-979-5351.
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